You guys, I find that tweeting about #ggwriterslogic is very, very cathartic.
Here are the things that came to my mind:
- Manage multi-billion dollar business empire - never went to business school, not even community college. #ggwriterslogic
- Sold girlfriend to rapist uncle for a hotel -…
THANK YOU JOHN FOR LETTING THE PUBLIC KNOW THE TRUTH #nomoresilence
Why has this hot Summer Camp release vanished from the release schedule? Could rumours of an “Up Your Gas” style doping scandal be true? Or has Seb Coe intervened?
Meet Blair. She is about to choose Chuck over Dan. This mistake could’ve been avoided if she had a sassy gay friend.
“WHAT ARE YOU DOING? WHAT WHAT WHAT ARE YOU DOING?”
“I love him.”
“You love him? You go from Chuck doesn’t have my heart anymore and Dan you have nothing to worry about to I…
pockyinspace asked: aww u are so lucky to meet Graham Coxon! He sounds nice and I hope he contacts you! Were you able to get a picture with him?
Aww, thank you! So do I - nothing yet but maybe nearer the time. or maybe not. Still, awesome experience nonetheless. Yes, I’ve got a couple - although I went by myself (welp welp), I made friends with two girls in the line who took pictures of it for me! My hair looks terrible in them but I’d been walking round London all day so it’s to be expected, really :)
AT THE ROUGH TRADE EAST IN-STORE ALBUM SIGNING THING HE WAS DOING
I MAY BE INTERVIEWING HIM FOR MY UNI MAGAZINE (!!!!!!!!!!!)
HE SAID IT WAS “VERY LIKELY” TO HAPPEN
HE HAS A BIT OF PAPER SAYING IT WOULD BE GREAT IF HE WANTED TO BE INTERVIEWED FOR THE UNI NEWSPAPER WITH MY EMAIL ON SO HOPEFULLY HE ACTUALLY CONTACTS ME
PLEASE MAY THIS HAPPEN.
THIS WOULD BE THE MOST AMAZING THING EVER.
AAAAAAAAAH
SO MANY CAPITALS BUT I’M SO EXCITED, HE IS ONE OF MY MUSICAL INSPIRATIONS
Even if it doesn’t happen, I HAVE A SIGNED COPY OF A+E. AND I HAVE SPOKEN TO HIM. AND I’M SEEING HIM ON APRIL 30TH. AND AUGUST 12TH.
lyff roxx \m/
this one
it’s fucking bread-shaped so you can have it as cheese on toast and it fits the bread
it was amazing.
just found a post from a year ago lamenting that I wasn’t going to Reading Fest ‘11
if only I’d been psychic.
Dear future romantic interests,
Unless your proposals include waffles, writing books about me and seriously hot kissing, I’m not interested. I’d rather move to a desert island where there are no men at all and live the rest of my life in peaceful solitude.
Yours,
Every Dair shipper ever.
Looking at this poll (http://gossipgirl.alloyentertainment.com/dair-debate/), I honestly can’t see that the writers will endgame Dair even though it’s bleeding obvious, and morally obligated, that they should do…
I don’t want to incite any arguments from hardcore Chairites - if any decide to try it, I will not be replying (I have better things to do than argue viciously over fictional characters at 1am) - but I just can’t see who would enjoy watching Chair any more. I enjoyed them at the start, but once you’ve seen them on/off for a couple of season it gets tiresome. Added to this is the fact that what originated as low-level mutual manipulation has turned into psychologically damaging behaviour that has become increasingly one-sided:
1. He tried to trade her for a hotel. Commodifying the woman you love, oh, how romantic! And commodification through skilled manipulation… beautiful. The stuff my childhood dreams were made of.
2. There is a HUGE difference between trying to get the person you love back and actually harassing/stalking them, which Chuck doesn’t seem to understand. Every time Blair tries to grow away from him, make new friends, get ahead in her career and rebuild her sense of self-esteem and self-worth, he comes crawling back and uses her all over again, even when she repeatedly tells him she wants nothing to do with him. And no, ‘stalking’ isn’t too strong a word; the OED definition of it is “To harass or persecute (a person…) with unwanted, obsessive, and usually threatening attention over an extended period of time”. I think we can count Chuck’s many ‘get her back’ plans as ‘stalking’.
3. Chuck may not have hit Blair, but he handled her incredibly roughly, and just because he punched a window instead of her does NOT mean it’s not domestic abuse. And him being drunk also ABSOLUTELY DOES NOT excuse his behaviour.
4. If he loves her so much, why does he keep leaving her? Why does he keep building her up to knock her down? Series 4; he lets her go so she can be happy. Series 5; she finds it - with someone who isn’t the one he let her go for - and he starts trying to break them up! Inconsistency, thy name is Charles Bass. This undermines a lot of ‘Chair’ arguments - “he loves her because he let her go!” “he’s trying to get her back because he loves her!”. Well, which one’s right? It’s paradoxical to say both.
5. Just because someone has a troubled past does NOT mean he should be allowed to get away with all of this. Daddy issues! Lots of people have daddy issues! They may be a little selfish, may have problems with their esteem. But it does NOT mean that all of them are selfish, self-serving tools who repeatedly abuse the one they purportedly ‘love’ to assert themselves. And it does NOT excuse this either. If it did, a lot of domestic abuse lawsuits would be dismissed immediately rather than rightfully condemned.
Of course, I’m not saying it’s all been totally one-sided. Blair has also manipulated Chuck, she has gone back to him repeatedly despite his and she’s cheated on her fiancé with him. However, this is not because it’s ‘true love’; this is the abuse victim cycle. She goes back to him because she thinks she can change him, because she has been left so broken and ashamed by his behaviour that she thinks she isn’t worthy of anyone else, because he has asserted his power over her through violence (point 3), psychological manipulation and making her feel worthless (point 1), and through using his monetary/status power to threaten her and those around her. Oh, and if you doubt that he tries to make her feel worthless, try this series 1 quote: “You held a certain fascination… when you were beautiful, delicate, and untouched. Now… I don’t want you anymore, and I can’t see why anyone else would” (1x13). I think using the ‘spoiled goods’ mindset is worthlessness-inducing, don’t you?
This is exactly why I found it horrific when the people in my A-level English class thought Heathcliff was so amazing in Wuthering Heights - sure, he’s a genuine victim in the first part of the book. However, when he comes back as an adult, he charges into what is otherwise a happy and contented household. Cathy has settled down with Edgar Linton and is heavily pregnant, so naturally Heathcliff loves her so much that he destroys this domestic calmness. He stresses her into a fever which eventually kills her, threatens to seriously injure her husband and the father of her child, and - when she dies - thinks it’s perfectly acceptable to abduct and mistreat her daughter, and maltreat his son and Cathy’s nephew likewise. Did I forget to mention that he leads Cathy’s sister-in-law on to the point where she marries him and he treats her like a slav? Yeah, what a fucking romantic hero he is. Right on. Go Heathcliff! (/sarcasm)
The problem is, while Heathcliff and Chuck are fictional creations, their real-life counterparts are all around us. The most high-profile one of late is Chris Brown; rightfully shunned several years ago for beating Rihanna. Little girls have been tweeting post-Grammys that “Chris Brown can hit me any time he wants”. Why are we as a culture so in thrall to men who treat women like shit by abusing them both mentally and physically, and treat them as pin-ups? The overwhelming reason why the Chair fanbase seems to love them so much is because ‘Chair is true love’. One of the huge problems with domestic abuse is that love is seen as a justification for staying together, for putting up with all of it. THIS IS NOT RIGHT. If you genuinely love someone, you do not need to injure them by PUTTING THEM DOWN, USING THEM or HURTING THEM.
And this is why I think Dair should be together. Because all of the things that a healthy, happy relationship needs are inherent in their relationship, be it romantic or platonic - indeed, don’t most relationships blossom out of friendship? They support each other. They find strength in each other. They talk, honestly and openly, and when they have issues with each other they confront each other without all the build-up that leads to horrible schemes like the ones Chuck plans for Blair. They share common interests that allow them to enjoy each others’ company without it being all centred around sex and self-loathing. I could go on, but I won’t (this post is far too long already).
All that’s left to say is this. If the Gossip Girl writers truly want to condone Chris Brown-lite behaviour, of justifying abuse in the name of a warped image of ‘love’, by all means they should write Chair as endgame to please the warped mindframe of the masses. But if they want to send out a message that rightly condemns such misplaced judgement, that supports healthy relationships and all the trimmings of them, and first and foremost can show that love can be beautiful without being tortured, I really can’t see that they could not choose Dair for endgame.
All that remains for me to ask, is how come two-thirds of Gossip Girl viewers don’t see this?
